Saturday, March 30, 2019

All is Forgiven?


Luke 15:11-32
Lent 4
March 31, 2019
William G. Carter

Of all the stories Jesus told, this is one of our favorites. We call it the parable of the prodigal son. It makes the top ten list of memorable Bible stories. Children learn it in Vacation Bible School. Older adults nod their heads in recognition whenever they hear it. Young adults who wander off in their twenties and thirties hope the story is still true.

It’s certainly one of my favorites. I checked my files, and I have six different sermons on this story; this is number seven. Many of us have heard it many times. We are well acquainted with the details. We think we know it pretty well, and perhaps we do.

But for all the familiarity, for all the times I’ve taught it and preach it, I still have some nagging questions about the story. They have been nagging me so much that I’m going to toss them into the air and let them nag you as well. Ready?

Here’s the first one: why did he do it? Why did the son leave everything?

Jesus never reveals the boy’s motive. He simply describes what the boy said and did. The son goes to the father and says, essentially, “Dad, I wish you were dead.” That’s the underlying assumption when he demands his share of the inheritance: “Let’s speed this up a little bit, Old Man. Give me what the lawyers will distribute after your demise. Don’t make me wait. I want it now.” What kind of kid says this to the parent?

I mean, according to 2019 tax law, a living parent can give each of the children and their spouses up to $15,000 as gift without any tax implications. They can do that far in advance of probating the will. It is one way to beat the rules about inheritance taxes. But what child says, “Dad, give me $15,000 now,” to say nothing of, “Dad, give me all of my inheritance now?” And Dad still works the farm; he hasn’t yet bought the farm. What kind of child says that?

We can find the words rather easily. He’s greedy. He’s selfish. He’s callous. He’s indifferent. He has no regard for his father. In the words of my own mother, “He’s a brat.” Does he deserve the money? No. But he’s part of the family, and legally entitled, so he makes his demand: “Give me the money.”

Remind me of when Old Jim died in my first church. Old Jim was our congregation’s resident multimillionaire. His attorney, Tom Weaver, knocked on my door one morning, and said, “Put on your Sunday suit and your best power tie.” Then we got in his Cadillac and drove to Old Jim’s mansion. Old Jim had died in the middle of the night and he was worth 37 million dollars.

All his children flew in, not to see him before he passed away, you understand, but for the reading of the will. All three of Old Jim’s wives were there, too, the two ex-s and the current one from whom he was estranged. Attorney Weaver was there as the referee, and I was there to plan the funeral. My job was easy: they wanted the 23rd Psalm and a short prayer at the graveside. Then they wanted Tom to read the will, so they could get back on their planes and return to Las Vegas, or the Cayman Islands, or the south of France, or wherever it was they had slithered in from.

They were greedy. Didn’t care a bit about their old man. Just wanted his money. How does somebody get like that? What went wrong?

Maybe it’s a character flaw. I mean, he’s the younger of two children, after all. “The man had two sons.” It could be that the older brother got all the notice, got all the good breaks, got all the preferential treatment. And rather than respect his older brother (can you tell I’m an older brother?), the younger son began to resent it. It could be. This happens in some families. Even worse happens in some families.

Certainly the kid exhibited some poor judgment. He demands the money, he receives the money, and then he blows all the money. He goes through it all. Doesn’t invest for his own future, doesn’t save a nickel of it. He throws it all away. Was it because it was a gift and he was not required to work for any of it? Could be.

Or maybe he was feeling confined on the family farm and wanted the bright lights of the big city? They didn’t have lights back then, but you know what I’m saying. Jesus says he squandered everything thing he had in “dissolute living.” That’s a nose-wrinkling kind of word. Dissolute means decadent, self-indulgent, licentious, rakish. And he lost everything. He would have been happy to climb into a dumpster and lick the inside walls.

Why did he do this? What’s wrong with him?  Jesus doesn’t say. He dangles this description in the air. Once we get over the shock of it, once we move beyond the finger-wagging accusation, maybe this guy in the parable begins to look familiar. Maybe he looks all too familiar. Apparently it’s possible to be a beloved child and a brat, all at the same time.

Why did he do it? The same reason anybody else would do it. He had been living at home – and he was homesick – all at the same time. It is this fundamental homesickness, this longing for love and acceptance and restoration that can twist us out of shape. Within each of us there is an empty place, a hole within the soul. We try to fill that hole with any number of the world’s delights, and we often dig the hole even deeper.

So here’s my second question: why does he do it? Why does the father take him back? Not only take him back, but sees him from a far way off, runs to embrace him, interrupts the well-rehearsed repentance speech, and throws him a party… why does the father do this?

Jesus says, “He was filled with compassion.” Well, that sounds pleasant enough. Every wayward child wants a parent to be filled with compassion. But what’s compassion? From the Latin: com + passio: passio, to suffer, and com, with. Compassion is to “suffer with.”

As somebody once put it, “Compassion is the sometimes fatal capacity for feeling what it’s like to live inside somebody else’s skin. It is the knowledge that there can never really be any peace and joy for me until there is peace and joy finally for you too.”[1] The father understands the brokenness of the boy. He knows first-hand how that feels and what it compels us to do. He understands the wandering intentions of the soul, and the all-too-human temptation to self-destruction. And he refuses to let those unchecked desires to rule any longer.

This is an uncommon father. You’ve been to the Bible studies. You remember that no Middle Eastern father ever runs to his children; he waits for the children to come to him. He is the center of power and authority. Yet that is exactly what he gives up in order to win back his son. It sounds kind of like a Jesus story, a story of Jesus, who had the power and authority of God, but gave it up in order to win us back.

The father in our story does this with extravagance. “Put a ring on his finger. Dress him in the finest robe. Put his cracked bare feet in sandals. Butcher our finest calf and fire up the barbecue pit. Hire the musicians and invite the neighbors. My child was dead, but now he is raises from the dead.”

This is unrestrained generosity, from a father who handed over a share of the inheritance to his formerly indifferent son. It is also inflammatory generosity, provoking an angry reaction from the boy’s older brother who never did anything wrong and never wandered off on his own. But the father insists, even to the point of going out, once again, to implore the good older brother to join in the family reunion. The father wants everything restored to the way it was originally created to be. That’s why he does what he does.

That pushes us to the third question that I have about this story: what does this mean for you and me?    

I think it could mean any number of things, especially if we resonate with one of the characters in the story. If we wandered off like the younger son, it could mean one thing. If we are resentful that the wanderers are welcomed back and forgiven, it could mean another thing. And if, like the father, we long for the healing of relationships, no matter the cost, I think it means something else. In fact, I think the story invites us to become like the father: to love both, to love all, to do what we can to restore all that has been broken.

John Philip Newell has been part of the Iona Community of Glasgow, working for the reconciliation of heaven and earth, city and country, rich and poor. In one of his writings, he reminds us that the Celtic Christian tradition points all the way back to the Garden of Eden. There is an original goodness to God’s creation. In each of us, there is a recurring memory of when everything was one. Here is what he writes about it:

Meister Eckhart says that “all creatures… seek the One.” This longing is deep within the stuff of our nature. It is deep within the body of the cosmos. We seek the One by seeking oneness with each other, by seeking to be in relationship with the rest of life, by living in relation to everything that has being. The tragedy of our reality is that we have fallen out of touch with this holy natural longing. Divisions that have multiplied divisions, and fears that have fed upon fears drive us further and further apart. Grace (says Teilhard de Chardin) is the “seed of resurrection” sown in our nature. And the greatest of graces, love, is what reawakens the deep longings for our being, the hunger for oneness, the desire for unity. How do we bring this greatest of graces to the relationships of our lives – our relationship with the earth, our relationship as nations, our relationship as wisdom traditions?[2]

So what does this mean for you and me? A boy runs away and squanders what he has, comes to his senses, and is welcomed home. That is a salvation story, not just for the boy, not just for the father and the family, but a sign of what God desires of the entire creation. It is the memory of the Garden of Eden, when all things fit together and flourished in peace. And it’s the great hope of what the Spirit of Christ wishes to create among us and calls us to pursue: peace, harmony, forgiveness, reconciliation, with love ruling over all.

When we scrape away everything else – all the posturing, all the self-righteousness, all the fake virtues - this (say the Celtic Christians) is our deepest longing: for everything to return to the way it was created to be. That is what we want most of all. That is the shape of Christ’s greatest work, and our work too: the restoration of what has been broken. The restoration of whoever has been broken.

When you get right down to it, it’s just like going home.


(c) William G. Carter. All rights reserved.


[1] Frederick Buechner, Wishful Thinking (San Francisco: Harper and Row, 1981)
[2] John Philip Newell, A New Harmony: The Spirit, The Earth, and the Human Soul (San Francisco: Jossey Bass, 2011) 143.

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