Luke 15:11-32
Lent 4
March 30, 2025
William G. Carter
This is the
longest parable of Jesus and the most familiar. But I’m nervous about preaching
it. Every time I talk about this story, somebody gets upset. So, I haven’t
talked about it for the last twelve years.
Last time, I had just returned from a pastoral sabbatical. It was the first sermon I preached after taking three months of sabbath time to get the fleas out of my hair and the breath back in my lungs. Apparently, there was a controversy while I was gone, something I would now classify as a tempest in a teapot. But there was somebody who really felt hurt by the conflict.
And I returned, thinking this would be an exceptional story to begin the fall. I shared an insight that I had discovered, something I had never noticed about the parable. I’ll tell you what it was if you promise not to stomp out of here in a huff. Ready? When the younger son, the prodigal son, comes to his senses, he practices a repentance speech. “Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you; I am no longer worthy to be called your son.”
He trudges toward home and his father spots him. The father breaks all Middle Eastern customs and runs to embrace him. He kisses him on the cheeks and cuts off the son’s speech. The son doesn’t get to finish his full apology.
At that, somebody decided to leave the church and never come back again. This is a person who had been hurt. They felt they deserved a full apology and didn’t get it. When we talked, I pointed out this is a parable about forgiveness. Sometimes we have to forgive people even if they don’t apologize to us. Well, that wasn’t good enough, I was told. But, I protested, sometimes we never get an apology; can’t we cut the offender loose, if only for the benefit of our own soul? And at that point, we lost a church member.
I suppose I could have just kept my mouth shut. Never addressed the hurt, or never given a gentle pastoral nudge to forgive. Or I could have soft-peddled my reading of the story. Yet this is the story Jesus tells. Jesus was criticized and rejected. One reason is because he told stories like this one.
It’s there in the setting as Luke describes it. The Pharisees and scribes grumbled because Jesus was welcoming sinners. Because he was eating with them. Because he was not insisting on hearing their apologies before he showed them some love. To the Pharisees and scribes, that was offensive.
Their reasoning is that people need to own their mistakes, and turn from their mistakes, and correct those mistakes, and make reparations for their mistakes. If you can’t do all of that, you are not worthy of forgiveness. Meanwhile, Jesus eats with the sinners, whatever it was that they were guilty of sinning. He goes to them. And he shares bread and wine with the tax collectors. It doesn’t seem to matter that they have sold out their neighbors to make a few bucks on the Roman Occupation.
So, he tells them this story. A young boy dreamed of escaping the boredom of the family farm. He said, “Dad, give me my share of what will come my way in the years to come.” To the shock of everybody in the village, the Father cashed in the boy’s share. To nobody’s shock, the kid blew it all, even the last nickel. The storyteller accuses him of “dissolute living,” using a word that appears only once in the New Testament.
We can speculate what that means. A lot of preachers have done that. “Dissolute” means wasteful, with wanton overtones. It’s the kind of behavior that makes people turn up their noses with superiority. Maybe he spent the money on an iceberg and had it towed to the Equator. Or maybe he bet most of it on a three-legged horse. Or maybe he rented some beverages; that’s all we do with our beverages – we rent them. Or maybe he waved a stack of hundred-dollar bills in front of a perfumed floozy with Dollar Store earrings. Jesus doesn’t say. He’s too polite.
What he does say is the kid woke up from a really bad dream. He said to himself, “What am I doing?” He was working for another farmer in a season when all the crops had died. He was throwing peapods to pen full of pigs. His head was hurting so bad the peapods started looking tasty. So, he shook his head, “No, no, no. Can’t do this anymore.” So, let’s give him some credit for that.
He remembers his Daddy. His belly hurt from hunger. Even the hired laborers on the old farm had something to eat. He lays aside his foolish pride to say to himself, “I will go to my Father, tell him I’m not worthy to be his son. Maybe he will let me stay in the chicken coop.” Then, he rehearses the speech – the speech that won’t be allowed to finish – and heads toward home.
The whole story turns on two hinges. First, he wakes up. As the storyteller puts it, “He comes to himself.” Nobody forced him to do it. Nobody compelled him to do it. He took the initiative. It doesn’t matter if his stomach was doing all the talking. It doesn’t matter that he had no idea how he would be received. He decided to go home.
The second hinge on which the story turns is his relationship to his Father. “I’ll tell him I’m not worthy to be his son,” he said. Yet the Father felt differently. All personal relationships have two sides. You might not think you are worthy. You might not believe you are good enough. But what does your Father think? This kid’s Father sees him approaching from far off, runs to him, hugs him, and shouts, “This son of mine has come home.”
This son, this daughter. It’s always this one, this child. That’s all that seems to matter to the Father. The relationship. Not the apology, as helpful as we think it might be, but the relationship. Both father and son approach one another.
Now, before you run out of here, screaming this is an unfinished story, let me point out that we haven’t heard the half of it. Because out in the fields, slaving away, is another son. The other son. The older son. The dutiful son. The one who had neither wandered nor squandered. As the oldest of four children, I am particularly sensitive to his plight.
Maybe you’ve seen the set of three t-shirts: “I’m the oldest, I make the rules.” “I’m the middle child; I’m the reason we had the rules.” “I’m the youngest child; the rules don’t apply to me.” Ah, if you grew up with siblings, you’re probably thinking about them.
Some of us oldest children grew up in a home where there was a clear curfew. Be home before eleven. Or as a brilliant father chuckled, “I told them to be home before the alarm clock next to my head went off at eleven.” Yet by the time the second, third, or fourth child came along, the parents were worn out. I know a family where the baby sister got away with things that her oldest brother would never have gotten caught dead doing. Or rather, that her oldest brother would never have gotten caught doing. A story like the one Jesus tells always circles around to the families we grew up in.
This Father: he’s an extraordinary parent. He goes out to the younger son, welcomes him home. He goes out to the older son, invites him inside. He shows extravagant love for the desperate child: throws a party, barbeques the steer, hires the band, dances the polka. For the steady older child, he shows steady love: ensuring there’s a roof over his head, three square meals on the table, ongoing emotional support, to say nothing of the two-thirds of the financial estate that the older boy will one day receive in accordance with Jewish law.
But as we heard, there’s a problem. The older son has a problem with his Father. “This son of yours came back and you threw him a party,” he sneers. “He wasted what you gave him and that doesn’t matter to you,” he argues. “Look,” he says, “I’ve never done anything wrong, never squandered what you’ve given me, and you’ve never so much as cooked up a lamb stew for me to enjoy with my friends.”
To which the Father pleads to him, in the essence of grace, “My son, you are always with me. All that I have is yours. All that I have left will be yours.” Then he adds, “This brother of yours came home. He was dead to us but is now risen. Lost, but is now found. We must celebrate his return.” Doesn’t that matter?
As far as we know, the story remains unfinished. Does the older boy turn his back? Does he keep his arms crossed? Does he swallow his anger and settle down? We don’t know. Does he wake up from his own bad dream, trudge toward the house, grab a burger off the grill, and shake his brother’s hand? Or does he pop him in the kisser? For all we know, he might still be standing alone out in that field. Because that’s where an inability to forgive leaves us – all alone.
Now, I don’t know where a story like this one leaves you. I’ll have to think for a while where it leaves me. A good unfinished story can spin off in many directions.
- If you’re a Pharisee, you might make a good older brother, resentful that the wasteful sinner is welcomed back into the family.
- If you are the tax
collector, you might feel relieved that maybe, just maybe, a path will open up
for you to come home.
- If you’re a
scribe, a biblical scribe, you have invested so much energy into getting the
scriptures right that you expect everybody else to follow the single path that
you believe is right.
- And if you are one of those sinners, immersed in whatever your favorite sins might be, you might be astonished that anyone would ever throw you a party if you ever came to your senses. Especially the Father.
And what about the next day? What happens next? Will the older brother decide now it’s his turn to hit the road and burn what he has to the ground? Or will the younger boy wake up late, get a clean shirt, and head out again? And what will the Father do? That question has already been answered. He will welcome the wanderer home and invite his brother to drop his resentments.
True repentance is based on the truth that we belong to one another. We are family, the Father’s family, God’s family. God waits for us to wake up from our mistakes. He pleads for us to cancel all our grudges. He tells us the truth - there is room for all – for all of us – for it is the Father’s house, not ours. We live not by sin, not by righteousness, but by his mercy.
Such is the extravagant love of God for us all.
(c) William G. Carter. All rights reserved.