Series: Dwelling in the Psalms
November 1, 2026
William G. Carter
How good it is. “How very good and
pleasant it is when kindred live together in unity!” Once in a while, it is
comforting to have a Bible passage that you immediately understand. There
aren’t a lot of difficult words to look up in the dictionary. No mind-numbing
theological concepts to pin down. This psalm simply proclaims it is a beautiful
thing when people get along. What a great text for All Saints Day!
That’s the theme of this song. Two ancient illustrations are given to tickle the senses. When people live in peace, what is it like? It is like the oil of an abundant blessing, spilling all over your cheeks and dribbling into your beard. Now ladies, most of you might not think that it is an apt analogy, but there it is.
So, what is it like? How shall we describe it when everybody gets along? It is like the morning dew falling on the mountains, watering the thirsty soil, and dribbling down to fill the stream. You did not ask for the dew; it fell from heaven like a gift – just like the oil of that blessing. And that’s how it feels to find that there are people in your life who have been given to you as a gift.
That is the heart of what the Psalmist sings. It doesn’t matter if you translate the first verse literally; in Hebrew, it reads, “How pleasing is the dwelling of brothers together.” Or you can generalize and expand it; as Stephen Mitchell translates the thought: “How wonderful it is to live in harmony with all people.”[1] Either way the meaning is clear: it is a holy gift to have companions. It is a blessing from God to have people who share your life. It is good and pleasant to have sisters, brothers, friends, living together in peace. How good it is.
So, for the next few minutes of this sermon, I want you to think of a face. Who is the first person that comes to mind when you think of good and pleasant company?
In one of his books, writer Frederick Buechner describes his first real friend:
Like me, he was kind of oddball – plump and not very tall then with
braces on his teeth and glasses that kept slipping down the short bridge of his
nose and a rather sarcastic, sophisticated way of speaking that tended to put
people off – and for that reason, as well as for the reason that he was a good
deal brighter than most of us, including me, boys tended to make his life
miserable. But it was Jimmy who became my first great friend, and it was
through coming to know him that I discovered that perhaps I was not, as I had
always suspected, alone in the universe and the only one of my kind. He
was another who saw the world enough as I saw it to make me believe that maybe
it was the way the world actually was . . .[2]
How good it is, to have a friend like that – somebody who sees the same world you see. Can you see a face? Can you see the face of some kindred soul?
How good it is to discover you are not alone! That you are never alone. Even if you talk to yourself and live by yourself, you are always part of a larger company. Surely that’s what the Psalmist is singing about. This is the next to last Song of Ascents. The pilgrim has been moving gradually toward Jerusalem for worship. Now she pauses to celebrate that there are others on the same journey.
You know how it is: say you are on an airplane, or riding a bus, or driving down a crowded highway. It is possible to be surrounded by other travelers and still think you are the only one taking the trip! We isolate ourselves and don’t even realize we’re doing it. Maybe we are focused on the destination and stop paying attention to those on parallel journeys. Or we put in the iPod earbuds and insulate ourselves from conversation with anybody else. And suddenly, this wide-awake traveler wakes up to realize, “I don’t have to be alone. In fact, I am never alone. God has enlarged my little world and put others in it, and that is a great blessing.”
About two hundred years before the New Testament was written, there was another Jewish teacher named Jesus – his name was Jesus Ben Sirach. He had lived long enough to go around the block a few times, was a careful observer of daily life, and compiled many wise sayings which were later published in a book. It’s a good book, even if it is not included in most of our Bibles. Three of his sayings are descriptions of faithful friends:
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Faithful
friends are a sturdy shelter: whoever finds one has found a treasure.
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Faithful
friends are beyond price; no amount can balance their worth.
That’s the promise the Psalmist is making. If we love God, if we honor God, if we move as lifelong pilgrims toward God, we can look around and see people that God has appointed to join us on the journey. They will enrich our spirits and enlarge our world, and they are a blessing that may surprise you. Can you see a face? Can you think of a name?
I can think of a few. There’s Jim over there, sitting by the window. Some of you know we have known one another for a while. Forty-six years, by my reckoning. All I know is when we met, my hair had not yet turned blond - and his haircuts took longer than they do now. Jim voted on my candidacy as a ministerial student. Four years later, he voted to approve of me for ordination - you can blame him! In between, I saw him on the campus of our seminary, recruiting future ministers for the little churches in the western Catskills. We kept bumping into one another.
The summer after he moved from Unadilla to West Pittston, I filled in at the pulpit he left. Later that fall, we got re-acquainted at the Pennsylvania State Pastors Conference. When I moved down here, the connections grew tighter. He has been a model for me of what pastors ought to do and be, modeling a life of prayer and scholarship, compassion and creativity. We have been roommates at conferences in far-flung locations like Bradenton Beach and Yale Divinity School. At the beach, when he got up early to walk and pick up seashells, I made the coffee and made sure I got into the bathroom first.
Over the years, when some of you drove me crazy, he heard about it. After he retired, started worshiping here, and met some of you, he discovered the situations were two-sided. There are very few essential things in our lives that we haven’t shared - or will continue to share.
And the circles grew and extended. We shared a devotion for our dear friend Virginia, who now lives with Christ in heaven. And I introduced him to the four jokers that I just spent a week with in North Carolina. They call themselves, “the Pilgrims of Lughnadsah.” Lughnadsah is a Celtic harvest festival. At the beginning of the pandemic, we got a grant from the Lilly Endowment to form a support group to explore how to end our ministries with energy, intelligence, imagination, and love - in other words, how to end strong.
The point is that we need these people in our lives. Victoria Atkinson White calls them “holy friendships.” They help us carry heavy things. They tell us the truth that we have tried to avoid. They share laughter in times of celebration and sit with you when the surgeons are checking you out. They help us become better humans. And there may be fringe benefits, too. If your friend Jim has a wood-splitter, he can help you create firewood out of the maple tree that got cut down last week in your backyard.
“How very good and pleasant it is when kindred live together in unity!”
We know what the Psalmist is sing about, don’t we? Can you see a face? Can you survey your life, and name those people who were given to you as a sheer gift? Maybe you are related to them. Maybe you are not. But God puts these people in our lives for a while, and their presence has been a deep blessing. They enrich us. They call our attention to matters otherwise neglected. They raise our sights toward visions too great for our imagination. They walk with us, always side by side.
In the opening pages of John Irving’s wonderful novel, A Prayer for Owen Meany, the narrator says,
I am doomed to remember a boy with a wrecked voice – not because of his
voice, or because he was the smallest person I ever knew . . . but because he
is the reason I believe in God; I am a Christian because of Owen Meany… I skip
a Sunday service now and then; I make no claims to be especially pious; I have
a church rummage faith – the kind that needs patching up every weekend. What
faith I have I owe to Owen Meany, a boy I grew up with. It is Owen who made me
a believer.[5]
How good it is to have a kindred companion like that! Can you think of a face? Can you write down a name? Find the margin of your worship bulletin and write down that name. Hang on to that name. No matter what happens, hold on to that name. And sometime this week, why don’t you send them a note that begins, “I thank my God whenever I think of you. . .”
[1] Stephen Mitchell, A Book of
Psalms: Selected and Adapted from the Hebrew (New York: HarperCollins,
Publishers, 1993) 73.
[2] Frederick Buechner, The Sacred
Journey (New York: HarperCollins Publishers, 1982) 70.
[3] C. S. Lewis, The Four Loves
(New York: Harcourt Brace Jovanovich, Inc., 1960) 96.
[4] Sirach 20:14-16
[5] John Irving, A Prayer for Owen
Meany (New York: Ballantine Books, 1990) 3.